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  ......got talent.

  by zeb in

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  the britain/america whoever has got talent is some thing i drop in on.

  its uplifting with talent displayed and fun had by all and seeing the brilliant and the very young like issy the 8 yo magician take the stage is everything warm.. am i an old softy you damn bet i am... cheers.

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  Its fun to watch people do something they love and to pursue their dreams. The kids on those types of shows blow me away. 😀
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  Jehovah's people are not happy people

  by Phoebe in

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  i finally stopped attending the meetings about 4 months go.

  i won't be going back - ever.. but i've decided the best reply to the watchtower is to be happy and i do try to be happy every day even thought i wasted my entire life on this religion.

  i cherish every day, practice mindfulness and do my best to be content with the life i have.. it is only now that i see that most jws i know are deeply unhappy people.

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  Most of the JWs I knew have no control of their emotions, and have overly emotional responses to everything. It is exhausting to be around them. In my own family, my sister is miserable, and she is mean and vindictive, even by worldly standards.
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  Has anybody experienced a judicial committee in a private venue?

  by Chook in

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  i think getting them to agree to a private place would give you an edge (even if the egde of their sword closer to home).

  if i'm ever hauled before their kangaroo court i will only go on one of three conditions .1 non jw venue .2 with legal representation .

  3 the recording of proceedings.

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  For the past almost 20 years I have just refused to engage anything JW related. It is hard, but why even waste my time getting into a discussion that has no merit and certainly no bearing on my life. Everything the JWs have to offer is based on lies. The fact that they passionately believe the lies is of no consequence. Just walk away, no time, very busy, goodbye.
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  Eloise Dupuis' husband gets medical files (Quebec, Canada)

  by OrphanCrow in

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  2. medical

  this article is in french but it translates fairly well:.

  the husband of a jehovah's witness who died after giving birth.

  the husband of eloïse dupuis, a jehovah's witness who died after giving birth at the hôtel-dieu de lévis, may have the complete medical record of the deceased.a text by yannick bergeron.

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  I think that you are exactly right - JWs think that if a blood transfusion is needed it is the surgeons fault. And teaching people that non-blood alternatives are appropriate in every situation or is the same as blood. In my experience Dr.s don't go to a blood transfusion as treatment unless it is needed.

  Its the misinformation and taking away of the choice to save your life that is criminal in my opinion. I hope there is a very public review of all of this.
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  Judicial meeting questions.

  by Fader812 in

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  why do elders ask such perverted questions during judicial meetings?

  kinda creeped me out, actually creeped me out a lot.

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  People answer because they are conditioned to think they have to. When I was leaving, the therapist I saw said, just because someone asks you a question, doesn't mean you have to answer it. It was empowering at that time, because it put me back in control of my life.

  i told a relative of mine to answer with "that is a private matter and it would be disrespectful to myself and my girlfriend to discuss our sex life with other people."
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  Why do ones that got out come back in?

  by moreconfusedthanever in

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  i have not been to a meeting for about 2 years now.

  i do not intend to go back but one thing has me baffled.

  why do ones that have faded and been out for years return?

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  DY - we were all in this cult at some point in time so lying about the cult doesn't work.

  I am getting tired of you preaching about how great the JW lifestyle is. It isn't, it keeps from living their lives and reaching their potential. It ruins people's lives, keeps them captive even when they want to be free. The people are not perfect and they subscribe to archaic policies that hurt abuse victims. Even my own family shun disfellowshipped ones, in a sadistic ritual meant to emotionally blackmail people to return to cult life. Yep they are all great loving people 🙄
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  How does one cope with the sudden and unexpected loss of a parent?

  by My Name is of No Consequence in

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  my dad died of a blood clot as a result of surgery late last year.

  to say that his death created a bottomless void in our family is an understatement.

  i think about him every day, sometimes constantly.

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  I am so sorry for your loss. I think each of us grieves differently and I do think therapy is helpful.

  For me changing my perspective helped some. What would my deceased loved one want for me? He would have wanted me to live my life, he would not have wanted me to be unbearably sad. I also found ways to honor him, and sometimes when having a particularly good time I still say "xxxx would have loved this."

  Mostly just be kind to yourself, this is never easy. Hugs ❤️
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  Last Memorial Experiences

  by NoviceLocs14 in

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  2. experiences

  i'll share mine first.... i had never missed a memorial for at least a quarter of a century of my life.

  i was kind of raised to believe that missing the memorial was a sin in itself.. by 2013 memorial season, i was missing most of my meetings (even though i was still technically part of my foreign language congregation), and i had just come off the pioneer list.

  i still made plans to attend the memorial (god forbid if i missed that lol).. i knew that typically our memorials were around 9 pm, since we usually got last priority (being a foreign language hall and all).

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  The last time I went to a memorial (almost 20 years ago) I wore a pantsuit. You should have seen the looks I got :-)
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  I Give Up!

  by pale.emperor in

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  im giving up guys.

  i've reached the end of my patience and now i finally refuse to waste any more time on part-time witnesses.

  i've text all of my active jw family members and told them to delete my number from their phone and never contact me again.

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  I don't even attempt to speak to my siblings, it's too hard. They are ignorant and arrogant, but, of course when you have the "truth" everyone else is stupid 🙄
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  What made you stay "in" even when you knew it wasn't the "truth"?

  by mentalclarity in

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  2. experiences

  so i've been thinking a lot about why i stayed a jw for so long even though i had always had doubts about the doctrines.

  i was born into the religion, left and came back as an adult for another decade.

  some of the things that come to mind (besides the threat of shunning-and this isn't to minimize that very real threat) was:.

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  just fine

  The point is to get out and meet people. In my town there is always something going on.

  Making gift bags for the residents of the nursing home, or visiting the people who don't have relatives.

  Back to school supply drives or Fill the backpack events - every Friday- backpacks get filled with food for kids that don't get fed properly at home.

  Volunteer at Fundraisers for people who have cancer/ lost their homes etc. Its a great way to meet people and see the kindness " worldly people" display.

  There is a senior center that hosts daily luncheon,with card games, bingo etc. they take bus trips together. They have water aerobics several times a week.

  Have fun and an open mind.